Do you ever have those days where all you feel like you do is yell? At everyone? For everything?
Your house is a mess and you can’t catch up.
You’re exhausted and insecure and dirty.
You call your husband at work no less than twelve times to ask him if you are a horrible mother.
They always need, and there just doesn’t seem to be enough minutes in an hour to accommodate the need, because there is just so much stuff.
You yell, and they cover their faces and cry. And, then you cry. Because, look what you’ve done.
But, they forgive you and snuggle you and tell you they love you, and you melt because you totally don’t deserve them.
Do you ever have those days?
AMEN, Sista! Every. Single. Day.
And I only have one – I repeat, ONE – child at the moment. With the second one due anyday. And an absent husband due to his traveling work schedule. And my own full-time job outside the house. It is amazing that I have even been granted the ability to have children…..
Get out of my brain. Because this is exactly how I feel, more often than I’d like, especially with the yelling, snuggling, feeling of not deserving pattern.
*sigh* Yes. :/
I am sitting here on my couch while my littlest boy (the one that will still snuggle with me) lays his head on my shoulder and says “I love you mommy. Will you not yell at me when I do stuff, please? Okay, mommy?”. My heart breaks. I yelled at him tonight. Because he came running into the kitchen crying for the 90bajillionth time after I asked him to go get pajamas out. This time though? He was crying because he bumped his head. And I yelled at him. And his brothers (who had been the cause of his crying the 90bajillion times before this) quickly came to his defense and put a hand on his back and said “Mom, why are you yelling at him? He hurt himself!”. And my heart broke some more
So yeah. I’ve had those days.
We have all been there.
Yep.
It’s getting better as they get bigger, though.
Is it appropriate for me to admit to everyday being like that?
(Only, of course, minus the husband.)
Too often. Its so nice to hear Im not alone in feeling this way!
Umm…I feel like that almost every day!
Only Every. Single. Day. And I’m a single parent who doesn’t have a husband or a boyfriend to call 15 times a day to ask if I’m scaring the kids for life. And they leave for school every day on their own, and come home every day to an empty house until I get home. They may be 11 and 14 but I still worry about them, and worry I’m messing them up for life.
And every night, they tell me “We got it Mom. You’re doing great.”
Somedays? I believe them.
Everything’s going to be okay. hugss
Thank you!! I had the worst day ever and this made me feel so much better!! Im so glad that I am not the only one.
All the time. My almost-four year old looked at me and said, “I think you should stop yelling.”
So I did.
Yes! I’ve had lots of those days! It will get easier though as Gigi gets older.
First on you list of things to do: do something nice for yourself….like a nap or a long bath. Then maybe you’ll be up to all the cleaning and mothering you want yourself to do!
Guilty, so many of us can relate to this in one way or another.
My son is 20 years old and tells me how I am the best mom ever. I still have the guilt of yelling at him when he was younger about things that weren’t important. I look back and hope that he doesn’t remember the bad things and only remembers the hugs, cuddles, etc. So, yeah, I’ve had days like that too. Being a mom is the hardest job in the world, but it’s also the most rewarding. Don’t beat yourself up….easy for me to say, esp. after I’m still beating myself up!
All the time! Makes me feel like shit almost every day.
This morning was a BAD morning. And it’s so very frustrating. But you are not alone.
Um, yesssssss!
I only have furry kids at home, but I teach 2nd grade. They EXHAUSTED me today, and then we ended the afternoon with 7-year-old-girl drama, complete with yelling, lots of tears, and even hyperventilation (all from them, not me!). God bless their mamas when they hit adolescence!
Yes. Repeating myself tends to make me get louder. And scarier.
Yes, I had one of those yesterday. I feel I have those days far too often and I am the only one. Thanks for sharing your bad day with us.
Oh so many days. Some days I wonder why I bothered getting out of bed because I’m doing it all wrong. The kids seem to be surviving though, so something is going OK.
This is today. Ugh.
I do have these days. But then I have the days where everything is working well and I get hugs from my appreciative children. It’s like childbirth; the bad days seem to be forgotten.
yes, I do too.
I take comfort in knowing I’m not the only one. Thanks…