You Are Such A Loser!

You are such loser! 

What an idiot…

What makes you think you can do that? You’re not skinny enough or smart enough.

Who do you think you are? You’ll never be as successful as her! 

Ever heard anyone say any of these things?

I have.  And it isn’t anyone in particular that has said these things to me.  In fact, it is my own mind that is saying them!  No, it isn’t me that says it.  Like I said, it is my mind talking.  More specifically it’s my ego talking and – to be clear – my ego isn’t me.  It can be a totally confusing concept but it is an important one, so bear with me here.

While your thoughts are not you, they can do great damage to the person you are to be. Once you become aware of the distinction between you as a soulful being, you can separate yourself from the thoughts of your mind and you regain your power.

To actively test this critical concept right now, bring awareness to the thought that you have running through your mind. The place that awareness comes from is separate and distinct from the place the thought comes from – you know those arguments you sometimes have with yourself. Mine go something like this: “Go to do the laundry.  But I don’t want to.  You really should.  I’ll do it after I go on a walk…” See what I mean?

As you bring awareness to your thoughts and think about the thoughts you are thinking, you’ve accessed a deeper level of consciousness.

You are not your thoughts.  So the next time your ego works to get you off track or squash your power, use these three techniques to get back on track:

1) Say Thank You: The next time your destructive-ego pops up to sabotage your plans, say thank you back and move on.

2) Move On in Action: It is important that when you move on you step into action of some sort.  The ego hates it when you get in action.  She gets scared and confused and a little mad that you are ignoring her.  But you’ve got to do it, because that is where the magic happens.

3) Can’t Resist Talking Back? Yes, sometimes it can be difficult to do nothing, to not engage those thoughts in your mind, and to simply “carry on.” I sometimes want to argue with myself or analyze the thoughts. If you can’t help talking back, use this line “isn’t that interesting” and let it be.

Our egos are proud and work to keep us safe and protected.  This internal voice that can squash our dreams in a heartbeat is the same voice that wants us to grow up to be bigger and better, but the voice is so worried for us that it holds us back with self-sabotaging mind-chatter that keep us playing small.  Your challenge is to play bigger.

Amber McCue is a personal life strategist who works with women who want so much out of life it is almost criminal.  She helps them find and live their gorgeous truth her life coaching and business consulting. Amber is currently creating a program to help women move beyond status quo and play bigger.  Amber is also the co-founder of Three Boudoir where her and her partner (a former playboy model) create confidence soaring photography experiences for women.  She can be found at http://www.ambermccue.com.