The Words of Amanda Todd

by Brittany on October 14, 2012

in Daily Curve, Self & Body

As I go to type a disclaimer on this post, warning that it deals with sensitive material… it suddenly feels ironic. This video exists because we’re sensitive material. All of us. You never know our whole stories. You never see all our scars.

Amanda Todd made a youtube video describing in painful, pause to catch my breath, detail. One month later, she killed herself.

I can’t think of a single justifiable reason this happens, but I can think of over a million why it has to stop.

 

Amanda October 14, 2012 at 7:27 am

Children aren’t born with hate. The parents of the children who did this and the authorities who let it happen have blood on their hands. :-(

brittany October 14, 2012 at 7:30 am

I find it disturbing that on the facebook page made in her honor, there are over 500k likes, but it would have only taken ONE person to reach out and help. I also find it disgusting that people are still posting horrific things on that page.

Proactive… the word of the day.

Jennifer October 14, 2012 at 10:26 am

This is so unbelievably sad. My heart aches for her and her family. Kids can be so cruel but this took it to a whole different level. May she finally rest in peace.

Louisiana Meredith October 14, 2012 at 12:07 pm

Can’t get link to work….off to search YouYube.

Louisiana Meredith October 14, 2012 at 12:07 pm

Make that YouTube….

KristenS October 14, 2012 at 10:59 pm

There aren’t even words. Heartbreaking doesn’t cover it. Horrific does it no justice. All I can do is just sit and cry. I can’t imagine being her parent or her therapist. There is never any reason for bullying. Never.

SwingCheese October 14, 2012 at 11:25 pm

I saw this a couple of days ago and just sat and cried. This poor kid – I can’t imagine how she must have felt, how her parents must have felt…and am I the only one wondering why, exactly, this guy who obviously had compromising pictures of an underage girl was NOT arrested for child pornography?

I just don’t understand the mindset that her tormenters have, and it sickens me to think that they are out there (and apparently feeling justified in their behavior, if they are still posting rude comments on the fb page). I don’t understand how they can be so callous. Everyone doesn’t have to like everyone else – I certainly don’t like everyone I’ve ever met in my lifetime – but you don’t have the right to torture another person like this. And to continue it even after her death. This sort of behavior is sociopathic. (And the less-than-charitable, knee-jerk-reaction part of me would love to see them fry for this behavior, in some way or another.)

britt October 15, 2012 at 2:29 am

As someone who dropped out of high school after years of bullying….this breaks my heart more than I can say. The tears in my eyes aren’t enough. I’m a 27 year old woman…and I still feel it sometimes. There are no words. Just….hope and tears.
We have to teach our children better.

Nemira October 15, 2012 at 3:04 am

I read the youtube comments for this video. One is:

If she didn’t want this sort of thing to happen to her she shouldn’t have flashed on cam in the first place. Common sense really.

This comment horrifies me so much, I don’t even know what to say. Knowing that there are people who honestly think that like and think it’s… what, constructive? Funny? True? I just don’t know how to process it. This is why I’ll never be able to blog or post anything, I know there are people like that all over and I’m terrified to encounter one.

SwingCheese October 15, 2012 at 2:31 pm

Those comments always confound me, too. Because certainly the commenter has never done anything foolish, ever, in their entire lives (let alone at the age of 13).

Cindy October 15, 2012 at 9:20 am

I just am not able to understand why people do this to others. I can’t understand what goes on in their heads. I thank the stars that there wasn’t fb when I was a kid. Bullying is so horrific but the constant online attacks make it so much worse. You can’t escape it anywhere. Not at home, no place to get away from it for awhile. When are people going to get that their words, their attacks are killing. How do we teach the next generation responsibility and accountability. They don’t seem to have any.

Amy October 15, 2012 at 10:21 am

This has sparked an in depth conversation in my circle.
How did it go this far? What could have been done? What should be done now? How do we prevent this for our kids? Why do people feel the need to continue to bully her, even after shes gone? WHy didn’t ANY ONE help her?
She lived only a few hours from me… it feels like it’s in my backyard.
SO sad.

Christine October 15, 2012 at 10:21 am

Now that I have kids, bullying freaks me out. I guess, like Brittany said, I will be proactive, even when my kids are telling me not to be.

Christina October 16, 2012 at 7:42 pm

I have a step daughter who I know went through something similar. She tries to pretend she is strong. I wish I had been a better friend and pushed her father to try harder. She is now 19 and doing very well. I know from her own admission that some of the bullying came from inside the family.

People need to get over it and stop. Why do people attack and hate on one person. This problem became worse over the last 30 years, teachers were taken out of a position of respect and authority and parents became friends rather than guidance. Some parents even encourage the hate.

I was bullied from 4th – 12th grade, 89-98 and you know my parents stood up for me and it was the best thing they could’ve done. The teachers who were trying to be cool and the administrators who did nothing are why the bullying and things like this happen to innocent children. It was bad then and worse now. I refuse to put my child in a public school, and where she is at is absolutely no tolerance for bullying of any kind. Has she been in trouble at 5 for things that aren’t necessarily bullying but are a physical contact, yes and I respect the teachers for stopping the problem while small.

Parents have to take a stand and say no more. Parents don’t have to give their children phones, computers etc etc. Live like no one else and stay alive in this evil world. Any dispute with teachers/administrators should be handled away from kids so the authority looks united.

This video made me sad. I just wanted to hug her. I’m so sorry Amanda Todd that no one helped you – that the kids involved weren’t locked up and key thrown away. That their parents didn’t keep an eye on them better.

Karen H November 5, 2012 at 5:16 pm

This is so sad. I have little kids and plan on keeping this video to show them someday. I want them to learn from it – both as what not to do to others and to stand up to others when they are being bullied. My heart breaks for her and her family.

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