The Menstruation Debate

by Meredith on May 2, 2011

in Girl Talk, Lifestyle

I hate nothing more than starting my period at work, having to ask one of the girls for a pad, and being told that they only wear tampons.

TAMPONS?! Hold the phone!

Because I had no other option, I tried to insert a tampon (for the second time in my life) the other day. I nearly fainted, which is similar to what happened the first time I tried to insert a tampon. In high school.

Just the touch of the applicator to my Hot Pocket was enough to make my stomach flip and turn my skin as white as a ghost.

I was sitting on the toilet with my head between my legs, trying not to pass out at work. Passing out in the bathroom stall would totally suck.  Can you imagine them finding me there on the bathroom floor, with a tampon in my hand, and blood seeping out of my crotch? They might think that some bathroom mugger came in there, knocked me out, and planted the tampon on me as a cover. Or they may just think, Oh, it’s just Meredith being Meredith.

So as I sat there, breathing slowly in and out, trying to control my heart rate…I began to wonder…why I am like this? Why can’t I wrap my brain around this piece of cotton with plastic around it that is supposed to be shoved into my Notorious V.A.G.?

Why can’t I have my blood drawn?

Why can’t I clean up puke?

Why can’t I man up and just deal with the things that other people find so easy to handle?

If I could wear a tampon, I wouldn’t have to skip going to the lake one weekend every month in the summer. I wouldn’t have to tell everyone that I’m not coming because I need to get things done at home. They all know that’s a lie since our Super Nanny pretty much has this place on lock-down, and our family knows better than to mess up what she has cleaned and organized.

If I could wear a tampon, I could ride horses when I have my period. Although, I have no idea how to ride a horse, I am certain that the occasion to jump on that saddle will happen when I am sporting a big oafy pad.

If I could wear tampons, I would be cool like the other girls who smoke and drink and have sex in the back of cars by the airport.

But, alas, I cannot.  My mom has brainwashed me into fearing tampons…

Did their mothers teach them nothing? You can DIE from tampons. Hello? Haven’t these women heard of toxic shock syndrome?

Only the ”loose girls” wear tampons.

Tampons are dirty and keep your eggs from shedding properly. If God wanted it to stay in you, he would have made a way for cotton to be grown in us once a month.

What if I lose the string? Or forget to take it out? Will I have to have it surgically removed like that stupid belly button ring?

What if I accidentally push too hard and it finds its way into my fallopian tube and it gets stuck there forever?

Aren’t these things made of asbestos? Cancer would really ruin my day.

See? I’m jaded. I just can’t do it because my head is full of crazy every time I try.

Where do you stand on this very important, very political, very controversial issue of pads vs. tampons?

Truthful Mommy May 2, 2011 at 5:02 pm

I am with the previous commentor, I just recently started using the Diva Cup and I love it> I can’t stand the pad, it was too much like a diaper.though my mom did try to argue that tampons were only for whores when I was a teen…I decided to buck the system and be the first virgin EVER to wear a tampon.LOL But I like the Diva Cup because its not a piece of cotton soaking up and absorbing , its a cup catching. I empty it.But if bodily fluids makes you weasy, its not for you. You will surely loose your cookies.

Issa May 2, 2011 at 5:35 pm

Okay, this made me laugh.

I never really knew that this was an issue, but I have a friend who has this same issue.

Tampons all the way. I don’t even buy the applicator ones.

Crystal May 2, 2011 at 6:18 pm

When I was in middle school I wore long skirts all the time for religious reasons. Wearing a pad with a skirt was the most uncomfortable feeling in the world. I was too embarrassed to ask my family (aunt and 3 females cousins in one house) about tampons cause i figured they would give me a speech about how I didnt need them and stuff. Until I moved out the summer before college I used pads. I didnt want to be embarrassed in college so I switched to tampons and haven’t gone back in 4 years. Tampons are much less messy, and totally make it easier to fool around, even on your period.

Myllissa May 2, 2011 at 6:28 pm

I am cursed with flo so heavy that I have to use both a ‘pon and a pad. Then one day I read about the Diva Cup. I tried it. It hurt like hell. I don’t think I inserted it correctly or something. But I’m so turned off by that painful experience that my Diva just sits in it’s box under the bathroom sink. What did I do wrong? I’m not grossed out by bodily fluids and I have no qualms with getting all up in my junk. Maybe I’m not cut out for the Diva. So I stick with what I know works.

Shelley May 2, 2011 at 10:01 pm

Wrong size maybe? I just tried mine for the first time last month. The first day or so was a little uncomfortable. I found that if I sat on the edge of the tub in the shower it was easier to insert it higher and it wasn’t uncomfortable at all. Oh, and I also turned it inside out (the little stem thingy was pinchy). Give it another try. I think you’ll like it.

Jennifer May 2, 2011 at 6:54 pm

Tampons all the way…. baby. ;)

fly on the wall May 2, 2011 at 8:21 pm

Ok, so since we’re all being honest here… I have a question about Diva Cup. What do you do when you’re out using public washrooms?

I feel stupid. *sigh*

Shelley May 2, 2011 at 10:04 pm

Dump it in the toilet, wipe it out with toilet paper or a paper towel and reinsert until you can get home to rinse and wash it properly. Hope this helps!

joy May 23, 2011 at 10:49 am

yep, that. plus y0ou really only have to dump it out a couple of times a day. On my super heavy days, i dump when i get up, at lunchtime, and when i go to bed. MOST days its only in the shower in the morning (so i can wash it), and at night. Seriously. Its totally a forget about it kind of thing.

and it doesn’t leak. like every
and it doesn’t scootch down, either.

Anna May 2, 2011 at 8:38 pm

Yeah, I can’t wrap my brain around the Diva Cup. I feel like I would spill it or something! It sounds like a big mess. I can’t believe the number of people who are all for it on here – I’m curious, but I just don’t think I can go there.

fly on the wall May 2, 2011 at 8:40 pm

Thank you for responding. I can’t figure out how your hands don’t get really messy and then, how do you pull your pants back up and get out of the stall to wash them?

Seriously confused.

Meredith May 2, 2011 at 11:06 pm

You guys. I am seriously puking over this.

Al_Pal May 4, 2011 at 3:22 am

You can carry a small pack of Feminine Wipes to clean your hands, [since you'll need to have your finger back up in, you don't want baby wipes, as the chemicals on those don't mix with lady parts]…some people have a small bottle of water to rinse with.
I use the wipes when I’m out someplace, but at home [or in a single stall restroom, it’s easiest to go straight to the sink to wash…

joy May 23, 2011 at 10:50 am

toilet paper, really.
Yes, there’s a learning curve. after the first cycle or two, tho, you have the hang of it.

StephanieKay December 10, 2011 at 5:07 pm

As a tampon girl, this line of conversation has gotten me researching and almost converted to a cup!

On the moon cup (the USA-based cup, as diva is made in Canada) site, they suggest grabbing and wetting a couple paper towels as you walk into public stalls. That way, you empty your cup, wipe it out with TP, re-insert, and clean any mess on your fingers with the wet paper towel.

Reagan May 2, 2011 at 8:54 pm

I’m all for pads. I only use tampons if I’m on vacation and going swimming or something like that….and I try my darnedest to schedule things so that doesn’t happen.

I have tried the cup many years ago….thought it was really gross and didn’t like inserting it. If you get queasy inserting a tampon, most certainly wouldn’t try a cup.

And YES…..people do forget tampons….and it’s not a fun job to have to be the one to remove them. I’ve had to do it several times. I repeat……NOT FUN!!!

SwingCheese May 2, 2011 at 8:58 pm

Depending on your flow, you don’t *have* to empty out the diva cup every time you go to the bathroom. So while I generally do at home, when I was working, I would insert it before the work day, then take it out and dump it when I got home. I would always wear a pad, too, just in case. I’m not sure how well it would work if you have a very heavy flow, though. And yes: it can be messy. However, when I used sea sponges, and we were going to be out of the house for awhile, I would just carry a small bottle of water in my purse, rinse the sponge out over the toilet, wash my hands at the sink, and be done with it. It was actually very easy. I suppose you could do the same with the diva cup, too, if you had to.

fly on the wall May 2, 2011 at 9:23 pm

Interesting, thank you.

AmazingGreis May 2, 2011 at 11:13 pm

TAMPONS!!!!

Chibi Jeebs May 2, 2011 at 11:18 pm

From the moment Aunt Flo first arrived on my doorstep (back in the day BEFORE ultra-thin pads), I’ve always felt like I’m wearing an awkward pillow/diaper combination with pads. The only tampons my body will accept are OB – everything else is, well, rejected. The Diva Cup and I aren’t on speaking terms after that whole mid-insertion-opening-like-an-umbrella fiasco. Anyone wanna join me in a hut?

PurpleShoutOut May 3, 2011 at 5:32 am

tampons are the worse, and what kind of woman does not have a pad in her purse? i am sorry but i always carry my own thing. i am the kind of woman who comes prepared, never where anything but a pad. i just wish the pms and periods would never come.

Mishelle Lane May 3, 2011 at 7:11 am

Both! For real.

Michelle May 3, 2011 at 11:39 am

i can’t wear tampons, i never have been able to. i can feel it no matter what brand, how its inserted, its uncomfortable… lucky (or unlucky i guess) i don’t have many periods anymore due to having polycystic ovary syndrome for the past 12 years or so. i hate having to wear pads, but when i do have a period i go to my ever faithful Always brand long-thin ones!

Ms Dreamer May 3, 2011 at 11:48 am

Everyone who said both? I’m with you. And I’m talking the Super Absorbent ‘pons with the Overnight (with wings!) pads. Heavy periods suck – like I’m talking feeling-like-I’m-giving-birth-with-no pain-except-for-the-cramps-that-make-me-want-to-stab-baby-seals-with-hot-pitchforks heavy. I can’t be on BC to help with that because of my blood pressure. And of course, they can’t take anything out because I’m “only 33 and you might still want kids someday” (even though I most assuredly do. not. want. kids. unless. we. adopt.). I’d love to try the DivaCup, but with AF, I don’t want to spend the monies and it not ever work. :( I hate hate hate Aunt Flo.

gina May 4, 2011 at 12:05 am

I was a tampon only girl until 2 things happened. My 2nd child tilted my uterus to the max and I got an iud. Prior to these things I used tampons with a 2 day padback up (I too bleed like a stuck pig) then baby #2 destroyed my uterus and the only tampons that would fit were playtex sport and I bled threw them in 30 mins tops. So I got an iud and now I barely bleed at all (but its not gone completely) so I use cloth pads. They don’t iritate me and you can’t feel them. I have wanted to try the diva cup but w/the iud it scares me, and what the hell do you do when you have to empty and clean it in public???

Al_Pal May 4, 2011 at 3:28 am

I was a mostly-tampons gals starting with my first period at 14.
Been using the Diva Cup religiously for a few years now.
SO much more comfortable than the dry cotton! Plus the ‘pons would “wear unevenly” so I’d have to ditch them before they were fully-used, pretty often. That made me very concerned about my clothing & I’d be checking my undies every couple hours at most! & the super-long ones were pretty uncomfy, I preferred OB and the organic versions thereof.
Like another person said, after the first day or so, it’s possible to leave in for a good 12 hours with no problems, and even longer at the very end. Never had a yeast infection from it. ;D

stacy May 4, 2011 at 10:56 am

Pads. I used tampons until after my first baby was born, and when I started up again post-baby I had a horrible reaction to the tampons. It was like food poisoning – stuff shooting out of both ends of me. Removing the tampon helped. Then I put another one in later, and the violent barfing and pooping started up again. I read on the tampon box that this could be a sign of TSS so I never used another tampon after that.

My two older girls (18 & 15 now), however, have used tampons. I did warn them about my symptoms so they could be watchful for their own, should they have anything similar happen. But I bought them a box of the tiniest tampons available with the slippery “pearl” applicators and also a tube of lube. (Hey, it helps!) Then I showed them the helpful diagram that comes on the paper inside the box of tampons, showing you how to insert them. I did not go into the bathroom to help the process. I provided the tampons, lube, diagram and moral support.

But I wish I could wear tampons still, because they feel a lot cleaner.

Oh. And I, too, have had tampon mishaps happen. :o p The “lost tampon string” as well as the “inserted a new tampon before removing the old one so now I’ve got two up there” situations have both happened to me.

Deb May 4, 2011 at 5:15 pm

Was on Team Tampon all the way…pads make me feel as though I am wearing a diaper…

Until I discovered the Diva Cup.

I swear, the heavens parted and the angels sang. Will never go back to anything else.

Elle May 4, 2011 at 8:38 pm

Can I just ask something? Has anyone experienced a change in the effectiveness of tampons after a significant weight gain??? I went from 120 to…well…I can’t believe I am admitting this but…227…and tampons have been a royal bitch to use ever since.

Bridgetteciaj July 1, 2011 at 12:23 pm

Do you mean they are less effective or harder to insert?
If effectiveness is the issue, it could have something to do with why you’ve gained weight? Perhaps your hormones have changes and your cycle is different than it used to be.
I have PCOS and I literally never know what is going to happen month to month. I can have no period to a devestating one requiring alone time with a bag of chocolate and a supersized bottle of Advil.

Jayme (Random Blogette) May 19, 2011 at 11:06 am

I can’t imagine having to wear a pad. I hate pads. The thought of chilling in my own blood makes me want to vom! I started using tampons my senior year (after my cherry got popped) and I have not looked back since!! I do carry a pad with me though just in case. On my worst days I have to wear a super heavy duty tampon with a pantyliner. I hate those days!

Crystal May 23, 2011 at 11:01 am

I use to have terrible periods and by that I mean TERRIBLE. I use to lay in bed with a heating pad and my husband wouldn’t come near me for at least 3-4 days. I had my son two years ago and had an IUD put in (Mirana). I haven’t had a period in two years. I will take it out when we decide to have another child, but for now I’m so glad I don’t have to worry about cramps, mood swings, tampons, pads. Life is hectic enough with out aunt flo making an appearance every month.

Bridgetteciaj July 1, 2011 at 12:15 pm

I have always wondered why there are so many pads in the store aisles and now I know. I could never wear a pad. I can smell everything and it feels like everyone else can and like I’m wearing a diaper and oh please help me from this tragedy!

Tampons all the way. I’ve used the cup before and found it to be pretty awesome. I don’t know why I stopped. I’ll have to check that out again.

And just to be really graphic here… you cannot lose things in your hoo-ha. Up the back side yes because it’s all made differently (oh the ER stories on that topic {shudder})

Angela July 24, 2011 at 5:16 pm

Personally, all pads feel like diapers, which I hated when I was toddler and like even less as a teenager and grown up. Team Tampon (and Jacob) (and huge piles of chocolate and cheese when it’s Tampon Time)!

Jill August 19, 2011 at 2:03 am

I’m on a fabulous birth control called Jolessa, so I only have my period every three months. During that time it’s so light I only need a few tampons. Pads are horrific, and while I’m glad all you Diva Cup users like it, I find my own body waste too disgusting to handle, so flushing it down the drain makes me feel a ton cleaner. Team Tampon!

Leigh October 14, 2011 at 9:22 am

I realize that I am reading this article 5 months after the fact…but I AM SO HAPPY to see there is someone else that is terrified of tampons. My mother didn’t give me the whole speech that yours did, but yes I do have a passing out sort of feeling as well when I even think about attempting that feat.

Georgina May 17, 2012 at 9:44 am

I use both but not because my flow is really really heavy, for me, I start off a little too light for a tampon to feel right but too much for a liner then I have to wear a pad which is annoying, but oh well it’s not that bad, then the other days I wear light, then regular and then super, then its straight down to just liners. I really don’t mind pads or tampons, I would never think of going near a pad on my heavy days because that would be gross but when it’s light I prefer it. I don’t want to try a cup, the idea of taking a cup full of my menstrual fluid out and then having to look at it, and I’d probably spill it on my hand or something!!

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