Although I didn’t realize it at the time, I was really lucky to be awkward and shy enough in high school that sex was never even close to a
possibility, no matter how much us girls talked about it in the back of the soccer bus. I never had to worry about a lot of the things that my friends did. Does he really love me? Is it supposed to feel like that? I’m 3 days late, could I be pregnant? And while none of my close friends wound up teen parents, I’ll always remember the swollen bellies and defeated expressions of the girls who did.
I can’t imagine that raising a child is ever easy, let alone at 16 when you don’t even know who you are as a person. I’m more than a decade older than that, in a loving marriage of over 6 years and I still get the cold sweats thinking about being responsible for another human life. Maybe it’s naïve of me, but I would think that people would do anything they could to make sure that teen mothers and their children thrive in such a difficult circumstance. So, it surprised me to learn of one charter school in Louisiana that seems to be taking an entirely different stance, as well as subjecting female students to some pretty egregious privacy violations.
The Delhi Charter School, a Louisiana public school, states in its policy manual that it may require any female student who is “suspected” of being pregnant to submit to a pregnancy test or a physician’s examination. Should the student test positive or, heaven forbid, refuse to take the test she may not attend classes at the school and is instead forced to pursue “home study.” If that isn’t acceptable then the student is counseled to “seek other educational opportunities.” There are neither guidelines regarding what constitutes adequate suspicion nor any recourse for a falsely accused student who refuses to submit to the test.
Putting aside the blatant sexism of this rule (the ACLU has already filed a challenge to this law on grounds of discrimination) and the obvious privacy issues involved, how can this school justify denying educational opportunities to a student population that is so seriously in need?
The statistics are serious. Only about a third of teen mothers under 18 actually end up completing high school and by age 30 only 1.5% of all teen moms have a college degree. Unfortunately, the education rabbit hole goes deeper than the teen parent herself. Around 66% of the children of teen parents earn their high school diploma as compared to 81% of children born to older parents.
Making sure teen mothers have a basic education is already a problem in this country and this school’s solution is to force these young women out of the classroom and into home study. I don’t know about you, but I was salutatorian of my high school class and if I had been forced to do all of my schooling at home I never would have graduated. Isn’t that the exact opposite aim of all educators and administrators? Shouldn’t school be a safe place for our youth to grow and develop rather than a place where young girls feel alienated, humiliated, and then rejected?
Schools should be making sure teen mothers have every chance possible to thrive, not just for themselves, but for the next generation. We as a country know that those who have less education than a high school diploma are twice as likely as average to be unemployed and if they do have a job they will make about half the average salary. By kicking these young women out of their school Delhi Charter School is telling them that they are not worthy of classroom time, that they don’t deserve the same level of interaction as their peers who aren’t pregnant, and, essentially, that they won’t waste their time on someone who won’t succeed. How devastating to a young woman who is already in an incredibly difficult position.
This practice is incredibly harmful to a student population so in need of educational opportunities. Perhaps Delhi Charter School could take a cue from a charter school neighbor to the north. Polly Fox Academy in Toledo, Ohio is a school specifically for 7-12th grade pregnant or parenting girls. Their goal is to help teen moms finish high school while fostering each young woman’s potential in an open and loving community. This is what support looks like. This is acceptance and love and nurturing ideals. This is what every school should aspire to; accept your students as they are and work your tail off to ensure they have the same educational opportunities every young person deserves.
UPDATE: As of Yesterday, Dehli Charter School has decided to change the policy of kicking out students that refused a pregnancy test, or tested positive. Dehli Charter School claims they did not know their actions were wrong and in direct violation of Title IX of the 1972 Education law requiring equal opportunities for both sexes.
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I just. REALLY!?
Don’t have sex, ok that doesn’t work.
Don’t learn about contraception.
Don’t let contraception be accessible.
Oh wait, now you’re pregnant? Well, obviously, the next step is to remove you from school.
THIS PATTERN. WHEN DOES THIS STOP?
Right? Let’s not educate these girls on safe sex and then if they get pregnant tell them they aren’t worth being educated at all.
THIS. This is why I want to work at one of the schools that provides childcare, education, and resources for girls who get pregnant during middle/high school.
That’s awesome! Those schools do so much to keep kids heading forward. So important.
I mean, luckily Title XI *does* make discrimination based on pregnancy 100% illegal, it is a bigger issue that schools are not AWARE of that…..
Title IX
I know, I could not believe that. 5 seconds into reading their policy manual I was thinking about how super illegal it was, and yes, we are lawyers, but I don’t think you need to be to know it’s not right. And it’s bad enough that they don’t know that, but how did the charter school get approved by the state with that language in there?
School administrators are not lawyers, but school boards *have* lawyers! I can’t believe the school board’s attorney didn’t catch wind of that and shut it down before it could be enacted.
I can tell you right now, with absolutely zero doubt and zero pride in this fact, I would be one “suspected.”
At my private Christian high school, you could get kicked out if they found out you’d had sex…ever Of course, plenty of kids did, we just kept it to ourselves. The administrators and teachers usually turned a blind eye if there were rumors flying around…it was if you got caught doing the dirty AT SCHOOL or came in with an obvious pregnant belly you’d run into problems.
They also didn’t give us the state-mandated STI/”sex education” slide show until senior year (after most of our students who would lose their virginity in high school already HAD…myself included), when every other school in the state got the presentation their freshman year. And the “sex ed” part? Nonexistent. It was simply, “keep your legs closed until you’re married.” And while I really wanted and strove for that, as did many of our students, it’s simply unrealistic. Kudos to those who keep the cherry until after the vows, but obviously, that’s not the norm anymore. I had my eight-month-old at my wedding, so it’s obviously not what I did.
Want one better? The reproductive section of our anatomy/physiology books had been PHYSICALLY REMOVED FROM THE TEXTBOOK.
Honestly, I didn’t really have a problem with the policy. I signed a “contract” thing when I entered the school in sixth grade, and another one when I got into high school that stated that I knew their stance, and that it was against the school’s rules. But even my ultra-conservative high school never would have crossed this line. This is awful. It’s sexist (um…what about the boy who knocked her up?). It absolutely puts teen mothers at a HUGE disadvantage when the odds are already stacked so heavily against them. I just…I can’t even understand how the administrators justified this in their minds. And I’d REALLY love to know how many men versus how many women were involved in making this decision…and what they use as criteria for “suspicion of pregnancy.”
End rant.
At least that was a private school, this is a public school demanding these things. Also, off topic, but I read in their policy manual that corporal punishment is permitted, so…yeah.
My sister attended a Christian college for her freshman year and their rules seemed very similar to your high school. Sex on or off campus was grounds for expulsion. One of the girls on her floor was kicked out because somehow she was reported for drinking. Again, off campus.
Speaking as a mom who got pregnant with my first at 17 in the middle of high school I find this appalling. If I had been forced out of school, I might never have graduated at all. Even worse is the update piece where the school says “did not know their actions were wrong”. WHAT?? Aren’t these supposed to be educated adults?? I can’t help but wonder what would have happened if any of their daughters were forced to take the test…or even refused to and were kicked out-pregnant or not! I have never regretted having my son, who just graduated high school himself, but things might have felt different if my school had publicly shamed me.
How revolting.
I am one of those kids; well the kids kid. My Mom had me when she was in high school. She did have to leave regular classes and take night classes instead- it was what was done back then (80′s). I can’t imagine how terrible people must have made her feel and she never really talked about that part, to me anyway. No big shock at that time she wasn’t able to finish school and she went to work.
However, I am one of the lucky kids who had a parent who was going to make things happen no matter what. My Mom got her GED and she worked her butt off. She eventually married my Dad but they split when my Sister and I were little. So my Mom just picked up and took care of us herself. Although she had not finished school she made it very clear that school, and doing well in school, was not an option for us. I am happy to say that while I was in college my Mom went back to night school and got her HS diploma because she wanted to finish that. She’d had a GED for 18 years but she wanted that Diploma. THEN she took 2 years and got an AA degree. She started her BA but at this point she has a high level job in marketing (by her own hard work) that the expense of finishing her degree just doesn’t make fiscal sense as it wouldn’t get her more pay or anything. I have NO doubt though that someday she will finish and get that degree because it is important to her and my Mom makes anything important happen. A true life lesson she taught me.
I could have done better in High School I will admit. We moved and I didn’t adjust well and well I was more interested in having fun, but I took college by storm and excelled. I guess I just tell you all of this because these teen Mom’s DON’T deserve to be treated like second class citizens. They can be just as bright and successful as anyone. We all make such serious mistakes in our lives but we all don’t have to wear them like a scarlet letter you know…not like them.
Wow, that is really fantastic! Your mom sounds like a truly amazing person. The sort of person the school system should want to nurture and grow and teach.
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