A few weeks ago Jenny Grace wrote a post about Online Dating. The post intrigued me. I’ve always thought about joining some of the more popular sites to see what might come of it. I’ve filled out the surveys and created my online dating persona only to delete my account the next day because I had convinced myself that I was too fat or too shy or too ugly or too (fill in the blank) to have any luck in the online dating world. After reading Jenny’s post I decided that I’d give online dating another chance.
A week ago I joined three different free online dating sites. I created my dating profiles, answered about a million questions and uploaded a recent head shot. I was ready to give the online dating scene a try, it’s funny what losing 100 pounds does to your head.
Within minutes I remembered exactly what frightened and overwhelmed me about online dating. Messages, IM’s and live chatting OH MY! It’s like the guys are all sitting around waiting for someone new to join and then they all pounce at a chance for new, fresh dating meat. I decided that I wasn’t ready for this new endeavor and quickly logged out of all three sites. I decided I’d sleep on the thought of online dating and come back to it later.
The next day, after cleaning out about 100 new dating messages from my in box, I decided that I’d log back in to all three sites and give it another whirl. I browsed through, and read the profiles of, the many eligible bachelors that fit into the age range (28 – 36) and location that I had selected. Some of the guys looked attractive enough and their profiles even made them seem very fun and smart. I read through the many private messages that were sent my way. Some were just a quick “Hi!”, others tried to be funny or flattering.
And then, it happened. I received an instant message request from one possible suitor. He started off innocently enough with small talk. He asked all of the basic get to know you questions:
- How are you?
- What part of town are you from?
- Are you interested in a fling?
Woah, what?!? I had to do a double take and make sure I had read the question right. I not so quickly asked what he meant by “fling”, even though I knew exactly what he was trying to get at. His response shocked me even more, “You know, a fling, like having NO STRINGS ATTACHED fun.” I quickly logged out of the dating site at this point and vowed to never return. Thank you, Mr. Fling, you have just ruined online dating for me forever.
Yes, I do realize that one “bad” apple shouldn’t ruin the bunch, but when I’m not too confident in the online dating world to begin with that right there had me packing and heading for the hills.
I’m not sure that I’m cut out for the online dating scene. Heck, I’m not too sure I’m cut out for the offline dating scene either. Am I overreacting? Am I just destined to be single FOREVER? Would someone please just drop “Mr. Right” off on my door-step, because that would be very helpful.
Do you have any online or offline dating horror stories? Advice?
Greis (pronounced Grace) is a single, 30 something, Texas girl with an iPhone addiction. She loves her hometown Houston sports teams, Astros Baseball & Texans Football! When she’s not working as an inside sales analyst for a local manufacturing company, you can usually find her on the internet, watching trashy reality television or snuggling her niece, Audrey. In her spare time she enjoys a good chick flick, reading teenage vampire books (the sparkly kind) and dreaming about what life will be like when she finally wins the lottery. You can read more from Greis on her blog, Amazing Greis.