Dear Worker,
As your HR Manager, do you know the words I hate to hear more than anything?
WORKER: I think we’re in love. We just fell in love at the copy machine. We couldn’t help ourselves.
HR PERSON: Yes! Yes, you could have helped yourselves! Put your wiener away! You were so good at your job. How could you let it all go over some silly, fleeting desire? Now, go home to your wife, and explain to her why I let you go today. Here’s a box for your belongings.
Don’t poop where you eat, people! Don’t do it!
In fact, your company hates it so much, chances are they actively discourage pooping where you eat.
I’m sure you want to know why your company cares about office romances. I can break down and make it very simple for you.
Are you paying attention?
It always starts nice, and it typically ends piss-poor. We don’t want to get sued.
Repeat after me…
It always starts nice, and it typically ends piss-poor. We don’t want to get sued.
And then I’m the one with crying workers in my office because they think you got preference for a recent promotion. Or better yet, you’re crying because your boyfriend just dumped you, and now you have become the subject of water cooler talk. I’m sure you don’t want Bob in Accounting to know that your left boobie is slightly larger than your right boobie when you take off your bra.
And I’m not the only HR Romance Buster out there. There are many HR people who feel the same way I do. Office romances are unprofessional and open companies up for those ugly sexual harassment lawsuits. As a matter of fact, 81% of us hate them with a burning passion that develops deep within our souls (SHRM Survey, 2008). And we’ll fire you for it just to prove a point to the others who want to butter their bread where they make their dough. Or, we’ll have you sign something really cheesy like my new found obsession, “The Love Contract.”
Ahhh… “The Love Contract.” It sounds like a prenuptial agreement doesn’t it? It is. Sort of. But it protects the company from your foolishness when things go south.
“The Love Contract” is something you both will sign once the bitchy HR Manager finds out that you’re dating (or whatever you crazy kids are calling it these days).
It states that the relationship is consensual, you will notify the company if it ends (so I can make sure you’re all being mature and not sending out nude pics of each other to other employees), it will stress the importance of professional workplace behavior (read: don’t have sex at work or kiss in front of the rest of us because it makes us puke in our mouths to watch your PDA), and it will also point out that The Company is not your personal therapist (so keep those problems out of here).
Oh, and if you don’t follow this thing to a “T”… you’re both signing off that you understand you could should will get fired.
Jeez, that seems really invasive and personal. I sure wouldn’t want to sign that thing. Wouldn’t it just be easier not to date a co-worker? I think so.
The bottom line… this isn’t Match.com. You’re here to do a J-O-B. There are so many people in the world. Go find someone who doesn’t work here.
Love (in a totally platonic way),
Meredith
The Bitchy HR Manager
P.S. No, I have never dated a co-worker.
P.P.S. On a related note, I never really get pursued in my position. This is shocking since I have such great hair.
P.P.P.S. I also have a nice rack.
Let’s hear it the comments section. I’m sure many of you have married a co-worker and really want to lay it on me. But, I’ll put money on the fact that more of you (whether you comment or not) have a terrible story about a workplace romance gone wrong. I know, because I see it all the time with employees, and I hear it from my HR colleagues.
I love your HR-related posts, not only informative but bloody accurate!
I myself have never fallen into the trap of a work-place romance, mainly because I work with 10 men all over the age of 45 (I am 25) and all are married with kids.
I did however have a female co-worker for about 8 months, she joined our company after she was “made redundant” from her last post, where she happened to be shagging the (married) regional director. Lets just say it didn’t end well for her, but she got a fabulous reference!
I had one office romance, and I THINK we did it “right”? We didn’t tell anyone. We worked in different departments. We broke up and it was never awkward, no one even knew until YEARS later that we’d dated for more than a year, and then, it was amicable.
I still can’t say I’d do it again, though.
I WILL say that one area where office romances are most prevalent in my circle of friends/family AND where it seems to work out the best is, uhh, law firms. Every lawyer I know (and they are a legion) is married to a lawyer in their firm, or met their spouse at their firm. Perhaps it’s the long hours, or perhaps it’s that they’re lawyers, and thus, you know, would be a formidable match for one another if it were to come to suit (and it wouldn’t), but … lawyers. Lots of ‘em are married to each other. LOTS.
Ha, GUILTY. Lawyer married to a lawyer. But we met at school, not at work, and if anyone ever suggested we work in the same place we’d both run so fast you’d feel the breeze. The thought of working with my husband gives me the heebie jeebies.
Me too, and I’m not a lawyer, but SQUICK, no thanks. But my sister met her husband at work. Two of my best friends met their husbands at work (and one couple still works together). My uncle works with my aunt. ALL LAWYERS. I don’t have a single non-lawyer couple friend/family member that met at work and/or works together.
I’m another lawyer-married-to-a-lawyer, but not one I work with or met in school. I felt the same about dating a classmate as Meredith feels about co-workers dating. Sure, it’s convenient, but when it’s over it can get UGLY — any everyone knows all your dirty dirty business.
As far as lawyers marrying lawyers, I think it’s mainly because we’re (mostly) super into our jobs, and therefore, non-lawyers generally find us absolutely unbearable to be around.
PS: My husband is a government attorney, and his coworkers, co-counsel and opposing counsel regularly sleep with, cheat with, and date other coworkers, including their own interns and, more rarely, supervisors. (Gag.) My husband even dated his intern before we met. (Double gag.)
TOTALLY agree about dating classmates. My husband and I met at school but we were in separate years in sections so there wasn’t much crossover (my law school tended to stick very closely within their year/section). The people in our section who dated first year were in for three years of misery.
Loooove this! Even before I was an HR person I didn’t understand office romances. When I taught in Japan the number of male teachers who dated female students – staggering! (Note: adults schools – not kids) I always thought is was so wrong and I certainly wouldn’t have dated a student – the last thing I’d want is some guy telling the other students in the school that Taryn-sensei was a good lay – especially since I’d never understand them!
I work for an airline now – did you know how many pilots and flight attendants get married? Um, a lot! It’s crazy. And do you know how many crew members request transfers when the relationship ends? A lot!
So obviously I’ve never dated/would never date a co-worker….(I shagged one, but that’s a different story)…but I am interested to hear other stories!
Great post Meredith!
And do you know how many pilots have affairs with their flight attendants? Before my now ex-husband left me for, you guessed it, one of his flight attendants, he was a brand new co-pilot and was actually disturbed by the amount of cheating there was in the industry. I guess it didn’t bother him that much…or for that long.
This is probably the most popular industry to cheat or have affairs in. Think about it, you leave home in the mornings, fly around most of the day or maybe for a few hours a day, but you usually end up in a different city than what you woke up in. And then you find out, there are a lot of other people in the same boat as you, including someone of the opposite sex! So now, you’re spending the night in a hotel, a nice one probably. Now you get to talking and all of a sudden this bond of being away from home, loved ones and family, you share these experiences with this other person and now you’re having lunches and dinners together and having nice, simple conversations about the ills of your career field, family and whatever else that may come up. So, it turns into a regular occurrence and so now you know more about this person you’re having lunches and dinners with and now, it’s a life away from your life and now you enjoy it and embrace it and get excited about the opportunity to see this person later on tonight, tomorrow or in a few days. Meanwhile, it never dawns on you, you’re falling in love or at least developing feelings for this person. Well, next thing you know, you’re inviting them back to your room for TV, a movie or something to drink. Conversation turns to the topic of being on the road away from your significant other and, well, now you’re looking for some comfort, temporarily. But the feelings grow and grow and grow and well, maybe if we were together in a relationship, we could travel together and spend time together instead of being apart like it is now with your current significant other. So you decide you’re going to end the other relationship, but now the new and better relationship’s a drag because this person is always with you, like even when you use the bathroom, they’re right there!
This sucks!
well- this hit rather close to home today! I am currently dating/ living with a customer. I am inside sales for mfg, he is inside sales at a distributor- have never crossed these lines before. and yesterday my boss found out. and it was… no big deal really all the angst i felt over it for the past few months was deflated… We are enormously happy and will be even more ecstatic after the first of the year when he goes to take civil service exam and gets out of this industry so there is no potential issues for either of us. His company doesn’t care, they employ family, spouses etc all at same locations. My company…. apparently neither approves/ disapproves as long as it doesn’t interfere.
However if we worked together daily- um no. Not happening at all…
Great read today!
I met my husband at work. On top of that he was my boss. And even though we’ve been blissfully happy for a number of years I have to say dating a co worker isn’t comfortable for ANYONE. Once we got serious I quickly moved to another company (which has worked out better than I could have hoped.)
I had a workplace romance. I was with the company for less than 2 months when I asked out my shift manager. From that first date, he and I were together during the day, then worked together overnight, every. single. day. We never let our private life interfere with work. He never treated me differently and I never expected special treatment. None of our coworkers even had a hint that we were seeing each other. A rumor was started by a psycho who was semi-stalking him, but the rumors were squashed by us easily since no one believed we were together by the way we acted at work. We had an amazing relationship that lasted until he left to join the military. We have since parted ways, but our workplace romance was awesome.
My company is in a middle-sized city. We hire a LOT of new college grads, and there’s not a whole lot going on in town, so yeah, lots of office romances. I’ve seen break-ups and marriages, but these are all smart people and I’ve never been aware of it affecting anyone’s career.
But I’m SURE it can get ugly. It’s just that my observations have been positive, and in the medium city we’re in, I get why people do it.
I never dated a co-worker and always thought it was kind of a dumb idea. BUT I did work at two different companies where people that worked with me ended up getting married. They are still happily married and have kids… but they no longer work together.
It always floored me how many teachers end up having affairs with other teachers. I’ve seen marriages end and new marriages begin due to affairs at school. It really surprised me – I never had a hint of these behind the scenes relationships when I was a student, but apparently lots of teachers find other teachers irresistible. Who knew?
When I was a college student one of my professors was having an affair with an administrator. Her husband found out and came to the college at lunch time, followed the prof into the men’s room and stabbed him multiple times. This went down in front of half the student body – in fact, a student tackled the husband as he was running away. The professor survived and after some time resumed his position. The administrator lost her job though. I want to know why they weren’t both fired. Also, I just don’t think it’s worth it – find the lovin’ somewhere else with someone who isn’t attached.
I had a hidden office romance that absolutely turned sour. No one in the office, including HR ever said anything but I know they knew something was going on with me and a fellow co-worker. I ended up leaving the company of my own accord because I could not deal with the stress of seeing him or having to have a single conversation with him. Meanwhile, I was the one who called it quits with him. I loved the company but knew he’d never leave so I had to and it was the best decision I ever made.
Office romance is terrible and I learned my lesson the very hard way but am a better, stronger person for it. There are a lot of secret romances where I am now but I keep my nose to the grindstone (is that the expression?) and just do my work and go home to my family.
My fiance and I met at work, but even though that worked out fine, I wouldn’t really recommend it.
I’ve never dated a coworker, but my BFF’s parents met at work. He was a 30 year-old banker and she was his 18 year-old blonde secretary. It was the 1960′s and I totally imagine it as being very Mad Men-esque.
I’ve never had a workplace romance and I don’t think any have ever gone on in my place of employment, however, my boyfriend’s workplace is a regular soap opera! The HR person there must not give a crap about office romances at all! It’s sort of entertaining to listen to him talk about all the stuff that goes on there. There are so many love triangles (heck, love pentagons and more for that matter) that it’s ridiculous. One day a couple who sit a few cubicles apart are dating, then they’re married, and next ting you know they’re divorced and the woman is dating the lesbian who sits in the cubicle next to hers. And he comes home at least once every two weeks with a crazy story like that. The worst was when a woman whose husband worked with her, had an affair with a coworker and her husband found out. The husband beat the crap out of the other guy on lunch break one day. sent him to the hospital. Workplace romances: BAD.
^^^^ THIS! ^^^^
Cracked me up when I saw the title to this post!
My husband and I are a product of the “Office Romance”!!! 4 kids and 8 years later we are going strong!
I’ve seen your husband. I wouldn’t be able to resist either. You totally get a pass on this one.
I married a coworker, had a child with him, and we are now divorcing but best friends. We are definitely amicable and I’m sure the exception to the rule (although there is another couple at work who married and had kids the same time we did and are still going strong).
I’m sure you’re absolutely right, that dating coworkers is a poor idea and they usually end terribly. The problem is, coworkers are the people you spend such a huge chunk of your life with. I met my best friend at work. It’s only natural that people develop bonds and relationships with people they spend so much time with. And the fact that it’s taboo and therefore we try to resist? Makes it that much hotter and more tempting. Eventually people just give in. And sometimes sneaking around makes it even hotter. I’m not sure this is a battle you’re going to win, no matter how right you are.
I work for a company that encourages interoffice dating and hires couples. The thought is that both people understand the stress and hours
I agree with Adria that it is makes perfect sense that people who work together often end up together because you do spend so much time together. I once worked for a consulting firm that during the heyday of the dotcom era had all these consultants who worked 20 hour days and rarey went home. Needless to say, by the time I went to work there, half the company was married to each other cause they never got out to meet other people. I’d love to know 10 years later if they are all still married!
I see how it can get messy, but I still don’t think it should be any business of the company as long as you both do your jobs and follow the rules. As a few other commenters said, if it gets serious, one person is usually prepared to leave the job.
I date at a job where we were not supposed to date, or if you did, you were supposed to keep it a secret. We kept ours from everyone, even my close work friends, but our boss found out before we were even officially dating and told my husband that she just knew we were going to get married.
We did. Turns out I’m a big fan of office romances.
Ugh, the second word should be dated.
fail.
Your husband is SUPER happy you cleared that up.
Our office is comprised of me, my husband and my MIL. How’s THAT for effed up?
So what you are saying is, there was a 50/50 chance you’d have ended up a lesbian?
I think that’s what she’s saying.
Lol, best comments of the whole post.
I married a co-worker’s brother, does that count? My husband and I have been married for eight and a half years now and added two more kids to the mix (I had one from a previous marriage). Also, I no longer work for that company, so now my brother in law is just my BIL, and not my co-worker.
My brother married the Office Manager at my work. They met at my New Year’s Eve party. I thought it wouldbe weird, but turns out, it’s just normal.
I’ve never dated a co-worker. Too much drama involved in the who stinkin’ mess.
I did however, stumble upon some sordid emails for one of my bosses who was “getting busy” with a co-worker. I had full access to his email as his admin and I was looking for something work specific from his “girlfriend” when I found it because they worked on projects together. I wasn’t looking, nor did I WANT to know this was going on. I actually liked him and thought he was this really cool family man. Boy, was that balloon deflated quickly. It actually made me sick to my stomach for days. She ended up getting fired, but I’m not sure why. But why they thought it was a good idea to USE COMPANY EMAIL was beyond me. He’s no longer my boss thankfully, but it really wasn’t something I wanted to deal with.
Part of my job is to read emails when people leave. Basically, I check to see if they are going to sue us for something. It’s always really inetresting what I find in there.
I’ve never dated a co-worker but early on in my career I loved to play match maker and set co-workers up on dates with my nonwork friends…turns out it’s not such a good idea. Once things go south it made things uncomfortable in two places…at work dealing with a moody co-worker and in my personal life dealing with a moody friend.
As for office romances…I’m not a fan but then again my husband had an affair with a co-worker but that’s a story for another day.
The boyfriend and I have been together for 4.5 years…we met while our 2 companies partnered on an event. So we didn’t technically work together but we had to work together on an event or two. During that time we talked, got to know each other and for some reason decided to date…so forever.5 years later and we are still together, no bad blood with work. I think the only reason it worked out with our jobs is b/c it wasn’t the same company.
I had a f*** buddy that was a coworker. We kept it quiet and didn’t tell anyone. We still work together and see each other in the hallway every now and then. We knew the terms of our agreement so its not awkward or anything between us. I met my husband at work too! We don’t work in the same area so I never see him at work. We just work for the same company. And if for some reason it doesn’t work out, I just won’t go to the company Christmas party!
Plus there’s always your f*** buddy! LOL!!!
As soon as I read the post I thought to myself “There’s going to be alot of people in the comments that say ‘Noooo. I did it and I’m in love and married with great kids.’” And sure enought I was right. The reason that there is a disproportionate number of good comments about how someone did it and it worked is that the people who did it and if failed (miserably) is that they are too ashamed to talk about it or they have been locked up because they’re probably a lunatic. I’ve sort of tried one time. We went out on one date and it was so weird after that we mutually decided that we were both stupid if we pursued the relationship.
As the telecom person in my old office I had the dubious honor of gathering evidence on 3 office romances of the boss/underling sort. I got to go through and track all their calls to & from company equipment including the company cell phones & pagers they had & see how frequently they were calling each other to ‘establish a pattern of behavior’ because the bosses were going to be fired as part of their employment terms. It was ugly. There was one divorce.
The company did not ban romance if everyone was at the same level in the company, though they were not fans. But when you were hired you signed a form stating you understood you couldn’t date your own or other subordinates & you would be fired if you did.
I have tried to meet people at work, simply for the fact because they are the people I see all of the time and have the most in common with, but in reality I have held back for all of the reasons you stated above…I am not a fan of awkwardness, mostly because I feel like I already am in the first place and adding drama at work would be some much worse.
The bigger problem are the MARRIED ones that are clearly misunderstood by the person that they have children with, own a house with, etc. and are ONLY fulfilled by the work lover. BUT WAIT – they don’t want a divorce; just consensual sex on the side.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ THIS! ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
I see this all the time. It’s gross.
ALSO, I have a saying, “If you’ll cheat on your wife, you’ll cheat in business.” I trust these people less in all areas.
Hmmm…I have conflicting feelings about this.
While I don’t necessarily think it’s a good idea to date people in the workplace, I also feel it’s almost inevitable…human nature. We spend more time with these people on a daily basis than anyone else on the planet, AND they are automatically people with whom we have something in common because of our shared space.
Personally? I’ve never dated anyone in the workplace. I’ve seen it go well and I’ve seen it go HORRIBLY wrong.
Bottom line: I completely appreciate your point of view, but I think you may just be fighting a losing battle. LOL
“Bottom line: I completely appreciate your point of view, but I think you may just be fighting a losing battle.”
I feel this way, too!
Yeah, I agree that it’s probably not such a great idea, but it’s hard to meet people in between working and commuting! Would a company rather have employees who are out partying every night, staying out late and probally coming into work hungover just because they’re trying to have a social life and meet people? Its unavoidable that people would end up dating a coworker, and just to say “Oh there are plenty of fish elsewhere” is a bit silly. I’m 38 and am still looking for my fish. I’m not going to turn down a potential relationship just because he happens to be a coworker. (for the record my boss is my brother and the only other guy in the office is married–won’t be fishing off MY company pier for sure!!!!)
I think we just don’t want to get sued when it doesn’t work out and goes really sour. That’s why we hate them. Hence the “love contract”.
THIS is the major issue. If you’re going to make a choice, you must deal with the consequences…not sue someone for them. I am just not a big fan of how sue-happy we’ve become as a nation. “OMG…there’s FAT in a McDonald’s burger?! And if I eat them ever day I’LL become obese?! That’s insane!! How can they do that to me?! I’m gonna sue!” McDonald’s hamburger, workplace romances…all the same things. We make choices in this life…sometimes they’re wrong and sometimes they’re right…ya just gotta use good judgement, and when things go wrong? Put on your big girl panties (or big boy underoos) and DEAL.
Okay…I’ve climbed off my soapbox now. LOL
This totally reminded me of when I worked at McDonalds as a teenager. Everyone dated everyone. I was a manager who had dated a previous manager when I was just a regular employee, then I dated another manager who I was actually training. ALL of my fellow managers there were dating someone below them, one of which included my little sister!
It got really fun when one of my ex’s started dating my roommate (who was also one of our employees).
Most of the relationships turned out terrible and overly dramatic and caused a bunch of crap for all of us at work. Then again, it was McDonalds and we were all teenagers.
One of my friends actually met her husband while they were working there. She was a manager and he was a dishwasher and she was HIGHLY scolded for dating him. Now they’ve been married for 5 years. So I guess there’s always like 1 out of 100 that sometimes work out well in the end.
My husband and I met at work, we were an under the radar casual hook-up for years before we got serious. I will say that it was our personalities that kept it from being uncomfortable. We announced we were dating after we were engaged and I found out I was pregnant with our son. The company was supportive and we transitioned from working there together in the same dept to both being work from home parents. So I would say it probably wouldn’t work for everyone and I saw some crash and burn inter-office romances at our company.
You’re just a sad old cunt who’d jealous.
Oh, Snippy! I was waiting for an asshat like you to arrive! Thanks for commenting!
I’m actually not old at all. I’m really happy and married. And my see-you-next-Tuesday is in great working order.
Have a nice life!
Wait, you would jealous? What does that even mean, haha!!
Who wants to make a bet that Snippy was once fired for an office romance?
Or, rather, “who’d” wants to make a bet?
see-you-next-tuesday!!!! HAAAAAA! awesome.
Hahahahahaha…when my friends and I were younger we would reply to stuff like this by smiling and saying, “Thanks! Bye bye! Drive through please!” LOL That’s totally what I thought about when I saw this.
Freaking trolls. They get me every single time. I guess that’s what happens to women with opinions!
But they have such lovely vocabularies!! LOL
Doctors are bad about this! I imagine it’s somewhate similar to the lawyer argument, we work alot and no one else understands the job. I keep thinking I could write a long multigenerational novel, like Ken Follette (cus I’m just that vain), about the relationships, breakups, hookups over the past 30years in our county hospital! The problem for most doctors in these kind of relationships is, you can’t leave. Your practice is based in one area and you’re just going to have to suck it up and share patients and collaborate with your ex who is now married to the radiology tech you caught him screwing (as an example).
Ok, I am married to a co-worker. It was seriously no big deal. We were both managers at a national big box store (we wore red and khaki…super sexy!), but we were in different departments and worked opposite rotating shifts. I think that us being good friends for a couple of years before dating helped, and we didn’t discuss our relationship at work. Ever. Our rule – because anything said in that store was grist for the rumor mill…..often perpetrated by the HR and HR assistant (that did change after HR was termed and the new HR wasn’t to tolerant. God, loved her!)
In fact, very few people knew we were dating (or cared) until we moved in together and the HR assistant saw my change of address form and spread it around.
I did leave the company after we got engaged because we couldn’t work in the same store as a married couple (even working in the district was frowned upon at that time) and I just didn’t want to work for them anymore.
I don’t regret dating a co-worker (although you can’t really call it an office romance…..), but I do know that we were the exception. For every happy, non creepy story that is told there are about a zillion tales of work related love gone bad. At least some are funny.
As an HR person I hate office dating almost as much as I hate Take Your Child to Work Day. (Because, yes, I want to take time away from all the crap piled up on my desk to design a program to entertain tweens during a school vacation, really I do!)
It rarely ends well, someones feelings get hurt and quite frankly it ends up making extra work for me.
I married my office romance ten years ago and we couldn’t be happier. We have two children and two dogs. Hmph!
I’m in HR. We have a recent case I don’t even want to go into. Company phone usage and all sorts. Bleurgh..
I’ve had an office affair, and an office “relationship.” The affair went much better than the relationship. At the time of the affair, we both were married. While my marriage at the time wasn’t in the best of shape, I had no intentions or interest in starting an affair, but I allowed myself to be seduced by a female employee. I had been feeling this employees eyes on me, and one night at work, was pulled into a conversation between her and a male employee, and was posed the question of whether I knew who it was that she was now interested in. I excused myself from the conversation under the guise of being busy, and I was, but I simply didn’t want to be involved in any mess having to do with employees. Later in the evening, working alone, this employee suggested to me that if she did have an interest in anyone, they would not know about it and again asked me if I knew who she had eyes for. I begged out the question again, and went back to work again. Alas, temptation got the best of me and I later went back and asked her who it was. Not surprised, she said it was me. I knew it wasn’t a good thing knowing that information, but I didn’t think much more of it the rest of the night. The day/morning came to an end and first shift had arrived. I went up to take a shower in the men’s room before going to class, and expected that all the employees would be gone by the time I would have been leaving. But as I suspected, as much as 15 minutes after everyone had left, I went out to my car to find the employee sitting in her car. She called me over, and needless to say, that was the beginning of the affair. It lasted about 3 mos. and included sex romps in the women’s bathroom, in the back seat of my wife’s car, her car, my car, hotels, and at her place, while her daughter slept in her bedroom. I got in trouble for signing her in, after she was late. The other women on the day shift were jealous of her and I got in trouble for signing her in after she was late, and the other women found out. They all went to their supervisors to complain and lo and behold I ended up in the Plant Manager’s office. Well, from that point it went downhill at work and my relationship with her. She began trying to usurp my authority and I soon left the company. I had been in line for a promotion, but that lapse in judgment caused the company to question me and my decision making ability as well as to be responsible. It was a good paying position and even though it was blue collar work, I would have been making way more money than I do now!
So, yeah, work or office romances can be detrimental to your chosen career field or employment, especially illicit ones!!
The office romance, was temporary. She was crazy and I knew it, but I felt sorry for her and went out with her. Next thing I know, I’m moving in with her and soon after we’re in the throws of a domestic matter and, well, let’s just say I was glad when that one was behind me. She left the company we both work together, albeit was part-time, within a couple of months after we began our so called “relationship.” All total, it lasted about 7 or 8 months and was over pretty much as fast as it began.
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