It’s not every day that they let a guy take to the pages of a magazine focused on women.
Daisy: Can you write an article for Curvy Girl Guide?
Daisy: Perspective of a single male, talk about what is important when you meet someone.
Me: So this is basically a dating piece.
Daisy: All the magazines have a single guy talk about his adventures in dating. Or lack thereof.
Me: Shut up.
Daisy: Oh, and make it funny.
Since this is my first foray in the hallowed pages of the Curvy Girl Guide, allow me to introduce myself. My name is Namby (well, not really, but I blog anonymously under this nom de plume), my time remaining as a twenty-something is measured in days, not years, and I am a lawyer in Chicago. As I alluded to in the opening conversation, I am a single guy that has been brought in to write an article on dating. Or how not to date, as the case may be. Now on to opening myself up so you can laugh at me, judge me and tell me why I am single. So, what is important when I meet someone? That’s simple: she has got to be smoking’ hot, have flexible morals and freakin’ loaded. Preferably with a twin sister.
Yes, there has to be a physical attraction but that’s just the doorway to whatever might be. Looks are fleeting, thus I cannot make them my primary focus when I’ve met someone that I’d like to have a relationship with. So when I meet someone, the things that are important to me are a little more than skin deep; I want to see someone with a vision for where she wants to go with her life (and that is similar to my own), I want to see someone who is secure in herself, I want to see someone who is caring and understanding and I want to see someone who is intelligent. As covered above, I’m a lawyer and have what can conservatively be called an ego. I don’t think that I am arrogant (though I can be) and someone that I am dating needs to be able to kick me in the teeth when I need it (and trust me, I need it from time to time). Summing it up in ten words: I want her to be better than me in every way. Cheesy, yeah. Cliché, yeah. But this is what I am looking for when I meet someone.
The problem that I keep running into is that I find myself compromising my simple guideline just to be dating someone.
Like I said, I’m nearly thirty, so I’ve got an idea about what is important to me when meeting someone, and I also know what things will prevent anything from ever developing with that someone. Much like what is important to me, the things that are major problems are equally succinct; (1) dishonesty, (2) game playing and (3) rooting for the University of Michigan football team. Maybe that last one is flexible. Maybe.
So when I meet this person, these are the things that are important to me. I can’t speak for most guys, only myself, so I will not make some grand proclamation that all guys look for this one specific thing. Well, maybe I can…
We all like to have our jokes laughed at by the ladies that we meet.
These are just my thoughts. Be kind. Don’t judge harshly.
And let me know what I’m missing.
Curvy Girl Guide contributor Namby Pamby is an almost 30 single guy living the life in Chicago. He gets paid to dress pretty, go to court & talk to crazy people.