Recently, CGG posted an article by contributor Kristen Schinsky in response to the Victoria’s Secret “I Love My Body” campaign. The point of the article was that Victoria’s Secret only loves one type of body. Offended by what she perceived as putting down skinny women, another blogger posted a response claiming that Schinsky’s message was just as damaging to young women as the Victoria’s Secret campaign, presumably because she felt Schinsky was promoting an unhealthy (aka, “fat”) lifestyle. While I’m not going to link to the article, I would like to share some of the comments:
-haha “curvy”… whatever. nothing besides HEALTHY really matters. fat is not healthy. thats cute that fat people want to love their bodies and sing it on top of a mountain but its not going to change the fact that they are unhealthy and probably unattractive. i hate this whole love your body BS. If you love your body you will try to be healthy and not be fat. Studies have proven that very low calorie diets and low body fat lead to long life. That probably means being hungry and skinny. Most people don’t like being hungry so this isn’t very popular, but it is proven.
-Saying that you “love your body” is just another way of saying, “I’m lazy, so I’ve settled to be fat.” I don’t understand this, why would anyone settle for anything, ever. Isn’t part of life, always wanting to be better, no matter what it is, including your physical appearance and health.
If you’re overweight do something to change yourself. Not only is it unhealthy to be overweight but it’s physically unappealing (for the majority of people, obviously there are always outliers to any group). Stop complaining. You have no one to blame but yourself. This article is just another example of the “I’ve failed, so blame someone else” attitude that we’ve grown to have.
- as far as this same old tired mantra goes, fat chicks, get healthy!! Dont be mad at chicks who actually give a damn about themselves! stop trying to lower the bar!!! Im so tired of fat, overweight, out of shape, and frankly lazy chicks complaining, and categorizing other women as not real because they put in more effort at looking good than they do! these women whatever else you might think or say( and a lot of it is justified) they put in the work! You dont just walk in and become a vickis secret model, and you dont maintain that job by eating twinkies!They earn it, so stop all the complaining!!!
To give credit where it’s due, there were also many comments to the effect of what I’m going to say below, and kudos to those folks for having common sense and embracing the reality that we come in all different shapes and sizes. It’s the people who left comments like those above that I want to ask: What is fat? What does it look like? Is there a specific height/weight combo that one is able to calculate by visual assessment? And while we’re at it, let’s do the same with skinny(we can’t just hate the fatties, let’s hate the obviously anorexic eating disorder folks, too). And too skinny. And too fat. And obese. Do we have some hard and fast guidelines? Can we say anybody who weighs under 110 lbs is too skinny? And let’s go with over 135 is too fat. That seems reasonable. Anybody who doesn’t fit within this 25 lb weight range is too something and therefore unhealthy. Should we all carry scales in our pockets, just to make sure? Or are we all awesome at determining weight (and therefore, health) by visual assessment?
Because this is entirely a health issue, right?
I have read plenty of blogs that talk about our obesity epidemic. I have read that having to listen to fat people chew impedes on the rights of others to enjoy public venues. I have read that fat is not healthy, no way, no how. I have read that skinny women are anorexic and only eat lettuce and a man wants meat, only a dog wants a bone. So, I want, no demand to know, what is fat and what is skinny?
Let’s create some hard and fast guidelines that can be determined by looking at someone, so we can go through life creating automatic judgments about who is healthy (and therefore worthy of love, respect, and happiness) and who is not.
Or, as an alternative, we could stop couching our prejudices about physical appearance in the language of “health.” The only people who know if I am healthy are myself and my doctor. Same goes for you, and everyone else. The only people who know if you are healthy are you and your doctor. The only people who know if the fat cow chewing his cud behind a very offended blogger is healthy are himself and his doctor.
Nobody knows someone else’s cholesterol, blood pressure, diabetes status, distance endurance, max bench press reps, caloric intake, activity level, or general degree of happiness and enjoyment of life by looking at them. So, let’s either stop hiding our prejudices about appearance in language about health and come right out and say, “Fat/skinny people are ugly. I do not like to look at fat/skinny people. Fat/skinny people bother me,” or let’s stop being nasty about other people’s appearance and worry about being the best, kindest, healthiest, happiest people we can be.
Audrey Binkowski is a writer, a mother, a digital marketer, and a hoarder of vintage items. Seriously, her closets and cupboards are full of old crap that belonged to dead people. You can read more from Audrey on her blog, Laugh Mom.