Do You Like His Friends?

by Meredith on April 16, 2012

in Sex & Relationships

I’m not going to lie.  My husband has a friend that I cannot stand.

The sight of him makes my blood boil, and I know the feeling is mutual.  As a matter of fact, he warned my husband not to marry me. 

It’s important that we have friends that support our relationship. And, once I explained that to my husband (in no uncertain terms), he agreed, and this friend is no longer a part of his life.

The longer we’re married, the more I realize that I don’t really have to like his friends, and he doesn’t really have to like mine.  As long as everyone is respectful of our relationship (and to each other), it doesn’t matter if we’re all buddy-buddy.

I mean, our interests are very different. I don’t need friends that can play video games.  And he doesn’t need friends that can talk about Fifty Shades of Grey.

I hit the mattresses of Facebook to see how other couples felt. You guys had a lot to say! And the opinions were all over the place.

Is it important to be friends with your lover’s friends?

What do you think, can we have separate sets of friends and still have happy love lives?

Erin @ Miss Lifesaver April 16, 2012 at 10:29 am

I agree with you on this. I think it’s really healthy to have relationships and interests outside of your partner and would question anyone who felt otherwise. It would be very hard for everyone if there was a lot of animosity involved, but that doesn’t mean everyone has to be all BFF either. As long as there’s a mutual respect, I don’t see the problem.

Although… if I’m completely honest, my opinions change if it’s a female friend of his I dislike… Just being honest!

Kim April 16, 2012 at 12:59 pm

I think it’s ok, as long as it’s not an issue between you and your husband or that person isn’t trying to hurt your marriage.

Justin April 17, 2012 at 8:34 pm

To quote Jack Johnson, “I sang your song, danced your dance, gave your friends all a chance, but putting up with them wasn’t worth never having you.” I think I say this cause I’m single. I dunno.

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